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The current epidemic among some men is that of loneliness and depression. And it’s a phenomenon spreading across the country like wildfire. But who’s to blame? The men? Women? Society?
As a coach who works with a lot of men, I’m seeing a common pattern where many are adopting the “red pill” ideology, where everyone else is to blame but themselves. So when people ask where all the masculine men have gone, this may be part of the problem.
When you have influencers like Andrew Tate berating and dehumanizing women, reducing them to objects with roles solely for men, that’s obviously going to create more separation between men and women. The men adopting this toxic ideology don’t realize that this kind of rage-baiting is only feeding their anger and deepening the loneliness they already feel.
Nothing will pull a man out of his powerful masculine energy faster than falling into the victimhood of blame.
Self-accountability is more absent than ever, and without it, there is no foundation to build anything worthwhile on.
If you’re in a constant state of blame, you’re not developing self-trust as a man, as a protector, or as someone emotionally intelligent.
I hate to break it to you, gentlemen, but you are responsible for your loneliness. You are responsible for women not being interested in you. You are responsible for the lack of resources you currently have.
There are countless ways to improve yourself, whether it’s in dating, career, or building deeper relationships. But too many men have fallen into the trap of anger and blame to justify where they are. That’s the quicksand so many can’t seem to climb out of.
If you truly want your life to improve, you have to improve and that starts with getting out of your own damn way.
You have to begin healing that anger and get to the sadness underneath it. You have to become brutally honest about your past and your present so you can begin to build your future. And yes, that takes vulnerability and accountability.
So before you move forward, let me challenge a few things in your current belief system:
As you grow and become more emotionally aware and accountable, it’s time to start holding other men accountable too. It doesn’t end with you, but it must start with you if there’s going to be any ripple effect.
Life is hard. The burdens and expectations placed on men can be overwhelming. And I know many of us had difficult childhoods, where masculinity wasn’t modeled in the way we needed. But that’s exactly why the healing work matters. It’s our responsibility to end the torment and the abuse we witnessed and to finally address the pain we still feel deep down in our bones.
